Recently, I got a nice email from a student at Air University, Maxwell Air Force Base, in Montgomery, AL asking about the balance between the “journey” and the “destination.”
In my book Your Best Just Got Better, I quote Lewis Carroll in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland when she was talking with the Cheshire Cat...
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where—” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
“—so long as I get somewhere,” Alice added as an explanation.
“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”
How often do you talk about the Journey and the Destination? I always require myself to step back and ask myself (process/debrief):
“Which is Which?”
Is me speaking at Air University the journey? Or a destination?
Is the http://www.BetterManCourse.com a Journey? Or a Destination?
Is me meeting a new friend… you get it.
You’ve got to be more specific … I get it, and then I’ll push you on it.
If “being a millionaire” is something someone wants as a destination, we can help them by asking:
- Do you want to make a million dollars? (Over the course of a lifetime?)
- Do you want to have a million dollars to your name? (In of savings/real estate/investing accounts?)
- Do you want to earn a million dollars a year? (That’s $86,000 a month, for 12 months…)
I’m not here to judge; I am here to help you define your #KnownFor.
What is the AMBITION?
Or, in my case, “What’s the #KnownFor?” And, once you identify THAT, you’re ready to add new people to your circle of influence.
- Soon after I added someone who made a million dollars a year (actually, he made a little more than that) to my social network, I went from earning $60,000 a year to more than $150,000. Within 24 months!
- The moment I added someone who’d written more than 40 books to my network, I published a book. (Within 11 months!)
- The moment I added someone who had a better relationship with his wife to my network, I became a better - and happier - husband.
I think you get it… it’s not a matter of WHAT the goal is, just be specific.
Know your #KnownFor.
Then, add someone to your network who has already gotten there. Not just to copy them; you may ultimately do things differently than he or she does.
The important thing is to be around someone who is there…in their version of the journey… AND the destination!